UNITED STATES — All too often we see our young people accomplishing great things in high school only to be rewarded with a free education in the name of some type of scholarship. These kids have worked their entire lives to get an athletic or academic scholarship or a combination of both. Either way it’s a free trip with all expenses paid to college.
So why is it that we see so many of them going off to school in August with big hopes and dreams for their futures only to come right back home to stay by December because they’re in “love” with some kid at home? It’s a shame that someone who says that they love YOU doesn’t care enough about YOU to encourage YOU to stay in school and do what’s best for YOU.
I’m speaking to every young person that has a significant other that is so in “love” with them that they can’t think straight and won’t listen to their parents or other adults trying to tell them that there are other fish in the sea. Nobody is trying to tell you that you can’t have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. What they’re trying to tell you is to love YOU first!!!
If you’ve got an opportunity to go to college for free to earn a college degree to set your life in motion to accomplish the things you’ve always dreamed of doing. Stop listening to people that are too selfish to see that you have dreams and goals too.
Let’s keep it real or all the way 100, whichever comes 1st! Love doesn’t pay bills playa!!! That’s something that you need to learn at 16, 17 and 18 years old. There is a thing that we in the grown folks world call sacrifice. I like to call it getting your butt whooped. You can either get it whooped now or later. Either way you’ve got to take it. It makes more since to make the sacrifice now while you’re young than to become a fully grown adult and have to take it.
Let me put it where the goats can get it. If you stay in school now and sacrifice your time and efforts it’ll be over by the time you’re 22 or 23. Then you’ve got the rest of your life to kick it and be in “love.” However, if you allow someone to talk you into dropping out of school to be with them when they’ve got ABSOLUTELY nothing to offer you make the sacrifice for the rest of your life.
When you’re too in love to see reality life begins the day you get home. Then comes the rent, car note, credit card bills and oh yeah, the baby. Since you were dying to be grown the baby shows up when you least expect it. Well grown folks were expecting it but you’re not grown. Now you’ve got to work two or three jobs because you’ve got no other choice. However, you’ve got no transferrable skills to get a job that pays enough for you to take care of not only a baby but you and the person that you’re so in “love” with.
The next thing you know love looks up and you’re 30 years old plus still telling folks that you’re going to go back to school to get that paper you promised Big Momma when you were 18 years old.
Sure, you’re back in school but you’re paying for it out of your own pocket and it’s going to take you another 10 years going part-time to finish. Why? Because you have no other choice but to work because you’ve got too many responsibilities to just go to school. That’s the butt whooping I was talking about earlier. That’s only if you decide to go back to school in the first place. Some folks never make the sacrifice to even go back because life just moved way too fast for them and it overwhelmed them.
Again, do you see how “Love” can get you twisted? More often than not the person that you threw your free college education away for isn’t even your significant other a year after you came home. Why? Because in my Janet Jackson voice, “That’s the Way Love Goes.” You’ll have four or five more “loves” before you figure out who the right person is for you.
Wouldn’t it just be easier to stay in school, take the free ride, get a girlfriend or boyfriend on the yard, finish in four or five years and then live your best life? I’m just sayin’…
Here’s the lesson of the day: Break up with anybody that doesn’t believe in your dreams that wants you to put your future on hold for them. That’s not love!!! That’s called manipulation. Always be mindful of what Proverbs 18:16 says, “A man’s gift opens doors for him, and brings him before great men.”
Stop me when I start lyin’!
Playas Thesaurus:
1) Put it where the goats can get it: verb phrase – to make it as elementary as possible. To put it at ground level so everyone can understand it.