By now most of you have heard about the New York high school basketball coach and the father of one of his players getting shot during a fight at the coach’s home. The father, 47-year-old Christopher Hooks, went to the home of Paul Robeson High School head coach, Todd Myles, Saturday night to confront him because his son was not playing enough.
During the fight, according to police, someone else showed up and shot the both of them. The father was shot in the neck and the coach was grazed on his left leg. They still haven’t arrested the shooter.
Let’s keep it real or all the way 100, whichever comes 1st! Some of these parents are out of control. This isn’t Daddy Ball or in other words, little league ball where everybody on the roster has to play. Now I have no idea what the circumstances were as to why the kid wasn’t playing but there is no excuse to show up to the coach’s home to confront him. There is no excuse to roll up on the coach on the court for your kid not playing.
There are a ton of lessons that can be taught while playing sports. Kids learn how to persevere, overcome obstacles, they learn the lessons of work hard etc. So if you’re the parent that is getting in the way of all of that what are you teaching your child?
It’s high school ball bruh!! Everybody isn’t going to play!! That’s just real life!!! Instead of showing up at the coach’s home to fight. Why don’t you teach your child the lessons of real life? Just because you’re on the job and you’re one of the best on the job doesn’t mean that you’re going to get the promotion. You can’t make people promote you or in this case play you. Sometimes you’ve got let the kid go through the adversity and guide him or her through it. Forcing the coach to play your kid doesn’t teach the kid a darn thing.
If the kid isn’t playing then you need to handle the situation on your end. Teach him to continue to work extremely hard, be the first person at practice and the last to leave. Don’t EVER be out-worked and always ask the coach what you can do to get more playing time. Then the coach has to give you some type of answer and now it’s up to you as a player to do the things you’ve been told to do.
If you still aren’t playing keep putting in the work and guess what playa? In the process you’ve gotten better whether you’re playing or not. At some point you’re going to play because the coach is trying to win. If he doesn’t win he’s going to get fired.
I’ve been around sports my entire life either as an athlete or a sports writer. Most of the time when kids aren’t playing they aren’t the best players or if they are the best players many times they’ve got a terrible attitude and don’t get along with the coach. It’s seldom that the kid is doing everything asked of them and they’re better than the guys playing in front of them and still not playing. That’s not happening playa because the coach is trying to win especially at the high school level.
That doesn’t mean that you don’t have butt hole coaches that have no idea what there doing but the best players are typically playing. Stop blaming everybody else for your kid not playing. At some point your kid has to own it and most importantly as a parent, you’ve got to tell your kid the truth. Everybody playing basketball isn’t a basketball player. In the words of my old school coaches, “You don’t chose the sport the sport choses you.” Just because you’re kid is on the team doesn’t mean he’s supposed to play. Stop me when I start lyin’!
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I agree with what you saying to a point. If there not worth playing why put them on the team? Isn’t that why they have try outs? I mean why have the parents pay all this money like buying shoes, shooting shirts or sports bags or any other items they need to support them sitting on the bench. I agree you work hard for what you want, however no parent wants to sit at a game and watch there kid sit on the bench.
Everyone knows that coaches and teachers have always had their “favorites”, and that is a major reason some kids who are even better don’t get to play enough. My son’s coach 2 years ago completely and blatantly played mostly the kids that were on the football team, although they sucked at basketball. Simply ridiculous, childish behavior that the school system lets them get away with.
Well said, intelligent coaches, do reach out to parents, so they can work both ends to the middle, when teaching this lesson of hard work and team work. It’s good when their is all around communication, and the coach, parent are on the same page about their Athlete.