The Jay Graves Report

Why pro athletes SHOULDN’T EVER get married! “Burnin Sands”

"These sands can get too hot for a boy that's not really to handle them!"

Nicole Scherzinger, the singer, once said, “Confidence comes with maturity, being more accepting of yourself.” Calvin Coolidge broke it down like this, “Knowledge comes, but wisdom lingers. It may not be difficult to store up in the mind a vast quantity of facts within a comparatively short time, but the ability to form judgments requires the severe discipline of hard work and the tempering heat of experience and maturity.” Then Tom Stoppard, the British playwright, shut the buildin’ down when he spit, “Age is a very high price to pay for maturity.”

“Young, Rich and Dangerous” was the title of the last CD of my ‘lil homies, Kriss Kross, in 1996. It should however, be the soundtrack of the lives of these young rich ball players that think they’re ready to get married. Check this out, you’re a 25 year old professional athlete and you’ve just signed a brand new 5 year deal worth more than $100 million dollars. The “Young and Rich” part you get, but “Dangerous” you don’t agree with, right?

Let’s keep it real or all the way 100, whichever comes 1st! You’re not the one that’s necessarily dangerous bruh. However, the world that you’ve just been thrown into is. Look into my crystal ball young dun because you still can’t wrap your mind around just how much $100 million is, but you have a pretty good idea of what you can do with it. Just about anything you’ve ever wanted to do right?

Let me put it where the goats can get it bruh! Money is like alcohol playboy, it doesn’t change you. It just brings out what’s already inside of you. In 2010 B.M., that’s “Before Money”, you were the big man on campus (BMOC) with a girlfriend. However, the coeds just kept findin’ their way into your dorm room uninvited and you weren’t stoppin’ them from gettin’ in. That’s what happens when you’re the most popular dun on campus. Now that you’ve got the money AND the fame the campus just got bigger. You travel from coast to coast playin’ ball and in EVERY night club you hit, EVERY guy in the joint wants to BE you and EVERY woman in the joint wants BE WITH YOU.

That’s a drug all to itself and it’s easy to overdose on that combination. Now I’m not sayin’ that all men cheat, what I AM saying is that all men are human. So if you’re away from home 30 out of the 52 weeks in a year for sometimes weeks at a time, with women doin’ everything they can to get at you, that becomes way more than a young thunder cat can handle. I’m not talkin’ about your everyday women. Naw playboy, I’m talkin’ about cosmetic 10’s, the movie star types that follow you around like a puppy throwin’ it at a boy. And you’re 25!!!!

See we can’t compare a pro athlete to the normal workin’ class cat. The normal dun has to typically initiate contact with a woman. So he has to at least be mischievous enough to play with the matches to start a fire. The young  pro ball player is runnin’ through the forest with gasoline drawers on while it’s already burnin’. Women are constantly followin’ these cats from city to city and many times even makin’ their way into hotel rooms uninvited. Sound familiar? Now I’m not sayin’ that all women are groupies but I AM sayin’ that all of the women that are constantly in your face are. A young thunder cat sayin’ he’s gettin’ married and bein’ on the road is like a boy bein’ a drug addict and sayin’ that he’s goin’ over to the crack house just to play dominos.

Let’s face it pimpin’, some lifestyles aren’t conducive to havin’ monogamous relationships and bein’ a young RICH ball player isn’t one of them. I don’t care if she was your college or high school sweetheart. When you guys met you were broke and women weren’t showin’ up at all hours of the night uninvited and undressed. Stop it! And you didn’t have a pocket full of money either.

Let’s talk turkey bruh.  The woman that you decide to marry knows full well that she isn’t the only one, especially if you’re 25 with a gang of bread. So who’s foolin’ who, especially if she met you in 2016 A.M., that’s “After Money”. She’s chasin’ bread like the groupies are chasin’ you.

Even if you think that you love her you aren’t mature enough to handle what’s comin’ your way on a daily basis. I just think that you should wait until after you retire when you’re settled enough to be someone’s husband. Your lifestyle will have changed by then and you won’t be in the hot spots all over the country, nightly. By the time you’re in your late 30’s or early 40’s you’ll be ready bruh. slow your roll.

There’s no rule to say that you have to marry young i.e. Tiger, Kobe. You’ll also meet women that should be well into their careers by then… ladies that have more to lose than some young groupie tryin’ to get pregnant and paid at your expense. Now don’t get it twisted, it’s some old groupies out there too bruh but when you’re older you’ll at least be able to recognize the game. That will keep you from gettin’ caught up at a minimum.

I strongly believe in the full sanctity of marriage because I’ve been in the game for 14 years and it should never be disrespected. So before you try to join my frat and cross these burnin’ sands my brother. Think long and hard about what you’re doin’. You’ll have to get rid of all the girlfriends and be able to keep your butt at home! And that’s the edited version. However, in the mist of bein’ a professional athlete that’s virtually impossible. So your application has been denied and stop me when I start lyin’ bruh!

Playas Thesaurus: 

1) Spit: verb – to say

2) Dun: noun – the person in question, dude, guy, etc. It’s whoever I’m talkin’ about and its non-gender specific.

3) Put it where the goats can get it: verb phrase – to make it as elementary as possible. To put it at ground level so everyone can understand it.

The caption under the photo is real talk today bruh! 


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