The Jay Graves Report

Wes Wilcox just made the standard white dude married to the sister mistake! “No Hall Passes”

"Uuuuuuuuuuh! What I was tryin' to say was........"

Martin Luther King Jr. once said, “Nothing in all the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.” Pope John Paul II gave it to us like this, “Stupidity is also a gift of God, but one mustn’t misuse it.” Then Albert Einstein put it where the goats could get it when he spit, “The difference between stupidity and genius is that genius has its limits.”

Well playas…I wish that stupidity had limits because some of these people out here have used all of their’s up and are on to the next boy’z allotment. On Friday news broke that Atlanta Hawks general manager, Wes Wilcox, apologized for makin’ a racially charged joke durin’ a team-oriented discussion with close to 200 season-ticket holders and club members in back December.

Accordin’ to the duns at Deadspin, fans were expressin’ their displeasure with Mike Budenholzer as a coach, to how players’ minutes are bein’ distributed, to even tellin’ a boy that they need a veteran point guard. The question that I’ve got is, why are they havin’ that discussion with fans anyway. They aren’t makin’ basketball decisions off of what the fans are sayin” and if they are they’re in more trouble than we thought.

So as this foolish discussion  proceeds ole boy, who is white, felt the need to soften the mood in the joint by sayin’ this tryin’ to be funny.

“I know you guys may be angry with me, but I’m used to it because I have a black wife and three mixed kids, so I’m used to people being angry and argumentative.”


Let’s keep it real or all the way 100, whichever comes 1st! This was standard foolishness from the white cat that’s married to a black woman. Now he was literally tryin’ to be funny and every black man married to a black woman understands what he was “tryin'” to say. However, he can’t say it!!! Why? Because he’s white!!

Just because you’re married to a black woman doesn’t give you a get out of jail free card or the hall pass on issues of race. You can’t say what the typical black person can say about us. You just can’t!

That’s like a brother marryin’ a Jewish girl and then tryin’ to make a joke about Jewish people. You just can’t bruh!! Now you’re wife may not have a problem with you makin’ the joke in the house with just the two of you because that’s how y’all get down and that’s cool! But you can’t stand up in front of 200 people and make a joke about black women because you happened to be married to one.

The only white cat that can do that is Gary Owen the comedian. His entire standup was about bein’ married to a black woman and it was HILARIOUS because he wasn’t lyin’!! However, when he stands up everybody that pays to see him is payin’ to see him be funny. Nobody paid to see Wes Wilcox be funny. Therefore, when he threw the joke in the air it fell flat.

I know that black women can be argumentative but I’m black and I’m married to a black woman! I had a black momma and grand mother!! However, there are certain things that you can’t do playa and one of them is talk about other races jokingly if you aren’t cool with the people you’re talkin’ to.

If Wilcox had been in a settin’ with 10 or 15 black people that he and his wife are tight with and said that, everybody would have laughed and the fellas would have said, “I’m witcha when you’re right playboy!” But he wasn’t! That’s called not havin’ an ounce of self-awareness.

For all of you cats that are still scratchin’ your heads because you can’t understand why black people can say things that white folks can’t. Let me break it down for you. Take the N-word for example. Black folks can use it with one another but white folks can’t. It’s like women usin’ the B-word with their girlfriends. They can call each other B’s all day but you better not. Why? Because when a word is initially used and meant to be derogatory it keep’s it’s sting from the original users, if that makes any sense to you?

Because men initially used the B-word as a derogatory slur towards women. Men can never use it and say that they are bein’ affectionate or friendly. It’s the same with the N-word and white folks. So whenever someone white says something derogatory about black folks, even if the dun sayin’ it didn’t mean it that way, they’re goin’ to get blasted. Not unless you’re tight with the people that you’re talkin’ to and they know that you didn’t mean anything by it. Stop me when I start lyin’!

Playas Thesaurus: 

1) Spit: verb – to say

2) Dun: noun – the person in question, dude, guy, etc. It’s whoever I’m talkin’ about and its non-gender specific.

3) Put it where the goats can get it: verb phrase – to make it as elementary as possible. To put it at ground level so everyone can understand it.

 The caption under the photo isn’t real but it’s REAL talk!